How to Help Your Child Feel Loved And Valued

Learn practical strategies to help your child feel loved and valued. Discover valuable tips to nurture a strong sense of self-worth and emotional security.

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Each child possesses unique qualities and should be treated with love and appreciation.

As a parent, it is your responsibility to establish an environment that nurtures your child's emotional, physical, and psychological growth.

This handbook offers practical advice on fostering your child's self-esteem and overall well-being, ensuring they feel cherished and valued.

1. Understand your child's needs

Understanding your child's primary love language is crucial in making them feel loved and valued. Love languages are how we express and interpret love.

They include words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.

To identify your child's primary love language, pay attention to how they show you love and what they often request. Children frequently express love in the way they wish to receive it.

✨ Observing how your child expresses gratitude and appreciation to others can also provide valuable insight into their love language ✨

2. Implement words of affirmation

The power of words of affirmation greatly influences building your child's self-esteem. Encouragement and validation are crucial in providing them with the support they need. 

Your positive words can foster a positive self-perception during moments of fear, nervousness, or sadness. Our Storybook App offers different types of affirmations, meditations, and massages to encourage positive things in your child. 

3. Spend quality time with your child

Quality time involves dedicating your undivided attention to your child. It can be as simple as watching their favorite show together, playing games, or going on short trips to educational places like museums or libraries. 

These activities foster a stronger connection and enhance your child's learning experience outside of the traditional classroom setting.

4. Create a safe and supportive environment

Here are 3 keys to creating a safe and supportive environment for your little angel: 

  1. Ensuring a secure and inviting atmosphere is crucial for your child's overall health, covering physical, emotional, and psychological well-being.
  1.  Encouraging growth-promoting interactions and addressing your child's needs promptly and sensitively are vital.
  1. Establishing open communication with your child plays a significant role in fostering such an environment.

Always take into consideration open communication with your kid

“A safe and welcoming environment also serves as the backbone for human well-being, covering physical, emotional, and psychological aspects.”

5. Demonstrate love through helpful actions

Acts of service are another way to show your child that you love and value them. This could be as simple as helping them with chores or assisting with difficult tasks. 

For instance, if your child has had a long day, you could help them by loading the dishwasher, showing that you care and value their feelings.

The acts of service can vary depending on the child's age, but the key is to show love through actions that help them in their daily life.

✨Remember, the goal is to make your child feel loved and valued ✨

🎯For example
you can help foster their self-esteem and overall well-being by understanding their needs, affirming them, spending quality time, creating a safe environment, and demonstrating love through actions.

Examples of acts of service for different age groups

Acts of service can be tailored to suit the age and capabilities of children, providing them with opportunities to express love and care for others. Here are examples of acts of service for different age groups:

For Young Children (Ages 3-7)

  • Providing support by helping with easy tasks like organizing toys, preparing the table, or feeding pets.
  • Creating handmade cards or drawings for family members or friends.
  • Assisting in preparing simple snacks or meals with supervision.
  • Involving oneself in minor community service projects, for instance, clearing litter in a nearby park or contributing to a neighborhood clean-up activity.

For Preteens (Ages 8-12)

  • Taking on more household chores, such as folding laundry, sweeping, or watering plants.
  • Volunteering at local community events or charity organizations with parental supervision.
  • Support elderly neighbors by lending a hand with activities like carrying groceries or tending to their yard.
  • Helping to organize and participate in donation drives for local shelters or food banks.

For Teenagers (Ages 13 )

  • Offering errands for family members or neighbors, such as grocery shopping or picking up prescriptions.
  • Volunteering at community organizations independently, such as tutoring younger children or assisting at a local animal shelter.
  • Participating in larger-scale community service projects, such as organizing fundraisers or leading volunteer initiatives.
  • It is crucial to offer aid and support to family members during hectic or difficult periods, such as taking care of younger siblings or volunteering to prepare meals.

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Written By

Francisco Cornejo
CEO Storybook

Francisco Cornejo, a dynamic entrepreneur with a Masters in Communication from RMIT University in Australia, is the Co-Founder and CEO of Storybook. As a serial entrepreneur, he notably served as the Chief Marketing Officer at Honda Motors in Latin America, shaping the brand's regional presence. ‍ Passionate about family well-being and communication, Francisco leads Storybook in its mission to improve children's health globally, aiming to create positive impacts in both corporate and societal spheres.

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Lorena Koppel
Child Clinical Psychologist

Dr. Lorena Koppel is a distinguished Child Clinical Psychologist based in Azuay, Ecuador, with over 26 years of experience at Monte Sinaí Hospital. She specializes in treating emotional disorders in children and adolescents, providing family counseling, and integrating theoretical and practical approaches in clinical psychology.


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